As soon as you find out your due date for sure (that is, allowing for two weeks leeway either way), you and your partner will have to sit down and decide once and for all how you are going to balance your family and careers. You’ll have to answer a number of questions, which will include but not be limited to:
 
• How much maternity leave (or Family and Medical Leave as is it sometimes called now) does she have?
• Does he have any paternity/Family and Medical Leave, and if so, how much does he have?
• How long should she work before starting her leave?
• What childcare preparations will need to be made, and when do those arrangements need to be made? 
 
Concerning Family and Medical Leave
 
According to the Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA), each parent can take twelve weeks off from their jobs for a birth without losing insurance coverage. So, one of the decisions that may need to be made here is whether both people will take off at the time of the baby’s birth, or will the father wait until the mother is ready to return to work before taking his time off?
 
One thing the mother will have to keep in mind while deciding this is how long she will be able to work before she must start her leave. If she is having no problems, and she has her doctor’s approval, there is no reason why she can’t work literally “up to the last minute.” If she must take off for an extended period of time before then, however, she may want to consider taking vacation or sick time, and keeping the 12-week FMLA time until after the baby is born.
 
The father delaying his time off can have a lot of advantages, especially if the child is born prematurely or develops some health problems after birth. The mother can take her 12 weeks and then the father can start his 12-week leave as soon as hers runs out, thus giving them a total of 24 weeks before they have to utilize the childcare arrangements that they have made.
 
Regarding Childcare Arrangements
 
Your should make childcare arrangements as soon as possible after you find out your due date. Popular childcare facilities might have long waiting lists.
 
These are only a few of the issues surrounding the family and career paradox. Others include one of the parents not realizing until it happens that leaving their precious bundle of joy to return to a career is just not an option. Another one is that which was already mentioned—a child having health problems that may preclude a parent being able to return to work. And, in this case, it may not always be the mother who has to give up the career. Depending on who makes the most money, the decision to fore-go a career may very well rest on the father.
 
Ultimately, who wouldn’t want a perfect balance of family & career in their life?